LIE #1: ''THEY'RE GOING TO DO IT ANYWAY, SO I NEED TO HELP THEM DO IT SAFELY.'' (1 OF 10)
Scripture: Proverbs 5:1-6, Proverbs 1:7, Proverbs 1:20, Proverbs 1:22-23, Titus 3:1-2, Matthew 22:17-22
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Lie #1: ''They're Going to Do It Anyway, so I Need to Help Them Do It Safely.'' (1 of 10)
Series: Lies Parents Tell Themselves
Wyman Richardson
Proverbs 5:1-6; Proverbs 1:7, 20-23; Titus 3:1-2; Matthew 22:17-22
It is likely that we have all heard this statement, or some derivation of it, at one time or another: ''They're going to do it anyway, so I need to help them do it safely.'' Maybe you have even said this yourself.
In general, this statement is usually made about two actions, alcohol and sex. For instance, parents will sometimes say something like this: ''Kids are going to drink. Since they are going to drink, I would rather my child drink safely in the controlled environment of my home than out at a party where there is no oversight.''
Concerning sex, parents will sometimes say something like this: ''Teenagers are going to have sex. Since they are going to have sex, I would rather equip my child with birth control so that he/she can have sex safely.'' Sometimes parents will even let their teenager's boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over. ''After all,'' they reason, ''at least I know where they are and they are not having to sneak around being dishonest.''
You may remember a number of years ago when the actress Sharon Stone surmised that parents should have a large bowl placed in a less-traveled part of the house in which around two hundred prophylactics were placed so that the kids in the house could take them discreetly with them when they go out without fear of judgment.
Some encourage even more direct equipping of our children to engage in these behaviors. I am thinking here of a former United States Surgeon General's idea that, ''We've taught our children in driver's education what to do in the front seat, and now we've got to teach them what to do in the back seat.''
Apparently the notion of directly assisting our children in doing things that we might not agree with but that we assume they will do anyway is quite prevalent, as some ...
Series: Lies Parents Tell Themselves
Wyman Richardson
Proverbs 5:1-6; Proverbs 1:7, 20-23; Titus 3:1-2; Matthew 22:17-22
It is likely that we have all heard this statement, or some derivation of it, at one time or another: ''They're going to do it anyway, so I need to help them do it safely.'' Maybe you have even said this yourself.
In general, this statement is usually made about two actions, alcohol and sex. For instance, parents will sometimes say something like this: ''Kids are going to drink. Since they are going to drink, I would rather my child drink safely in the controlled environment of my home than out at a party where there is no oversight.''
Concerning sex, parents will sometimes say something like this: ''Teenagers are going to have sex. Since they are going to have sex, I would rather equip my child with birth control so that he/she can have sex safely.'' Sometimes parents will even let their teenager's boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over. ''After all,'' they reason, ''at least I know where they are and they are not having to sneak around being dishonest.''
You may remember a number of years ago when the actress Sharon Stone surmised that parents should have a large bowl placed in a less-traveled part of the house in which around two hundred prophylactics were placed so that the kids in the house could take them discreetly with them when they go out without fear of judgment.
Some encourage even more direct equipping of our children to engage in these behaviors. I am thinking here of a former United States Surgeon General's idea that, ''We've taught our children in driver's education what to do in the front seat, and now we've got to teach them what to do in the back seat.''
Apparently the notion of directly assisting our children in doing things that we might not agree with but that we assume they will do anyway is quite prevalent, as some ...
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