ROUGH PATCHES AND RECONCILIATION (29)
Scripture: Songs of Songs 5:2-16, Songs of Songs 6:1-3
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Rough Patches and Reconciliation (29)
Series: Wisdom - Suffering, Thinking, Loving, and Living Authentically
Patrick Edwards
Song of Songs 5:2-6:3
Introduction
Over our bed Teresa and I have a little artsy picture that says, ''Always Kiss Me Goodnight.'' We got it when we got married and thought, ''Oh how sweet that is,'' but to be honest we didn't really understand the profundity or the difficulty of such a charge as this. And what I mean is that sometimes it's hard to kiss each other before falling asleep. Now in the Edwards household one of the challenges to such a task is that Teresa often passes out from exhaustion before I can even get in the bed! Raising a 4 and 2 year old will do that to you! But that is not really what I mean this morning.
What I mean is that sometimes it can be difficult to kiss your spouse before bed because you simply do not want to, you're angry or upset by something and giving a kiss is one of the last things you want to do. Frankly, something you're just tired or just feeling numb to your spouse and so a show of intimacy and affection just doesn't feel right. Anyone who has been married for a decent amount of time knows how easy it is to have evenings when you just aren't feeling it. Every marriage goes through rough patches.
What do we do, though, when our marriages hit these kinds of seasons? For example, what do we do when we've had a fight or our spouses have hurt us? The easiest thing to do, the thing we most often want to do, is to dig in our heels, to continue to be mad and wait for the other person to come grovel to us. Whether we're angry at the other person or just not feeling particularly warm to them, we turn them away and shun their advances until we've felt like they have thoroughly demonstrated sufficient penance. Whether we have legitimately been wronged or we're just in a mood, how easy it is to take such a selfish position.
And what happens when we do this? Well, most often we just prolong the r ...
Series: Wisdom - Suffering, Thinking, Loving, and Living Authentically
Patrick Edwards
Song of Songs 5:2-6:3
Introduction
Over our bed Teresa and I have a little artsy picture that says, ''Always Kiss Me Goodnight.'' We got it when we got married and thought, ''Oh how sweet that is,'' but to be honest we didn't really understand the profundity or the difficulty of such a charge as this. And what I mean is that sometimes it's hard to kiss each other before falling asleep. Now in the Edwards household one of the challenges to such a task is that Teresa often passes out from exhaustion before I can even get in the bed! Raising a 4 and 2 year old will do that to you! But that is not really what I mean this morning.
What I mean is that sometimes it can be difficult to kiss your spouse before bed because you simply do not want to, you're angry or upset by something and giving a kiss is one of the last things you want to do. Frankly, something you're just tired or just feeling numb to your spouse and so a show of intimacy and affection just doesn't feel right. Anyone who has been married for a decent amount of time knows how easy it is to have evenings when you just aren't feeling it. Every marriage goes through rough patches.
What do we do, though, when our marriages hit these kinds of seasons? For example, what do we do when we've had a fight or our spouses have hurt us? The easiest thing to do, the thing we most often want to do, is to dig in our heels, to continue to be mad and wait for the other person to come grovel to us. Whether we're angry at the other person or just not feeling particularly warm to them, we turn them away and shun their advances until we've felt like they have thoroughly demonstrated sufficient penance. Whether we have legitimately been wronged or we're just in a mood, how easy it is to take such a selfish position.
And what happens when we do this? Well, most often we just prolong the r ...
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